The Bitter Truth About Relationships in Today’s Society


In recent times, the nature of relationships, especially marriages, has undergone a significant shift. What was once a bond built on mutual respect, shared values, and family traditions has increasingly turned into transactional dealings. This change marks the root of many problems that are now commonplace in families and society.

From Relationships to Deals

In the past, parents had the courage and authority to arrange marriages for their children based on traditional values. They considered family backgrounds, social standing, and cultural upbringing. Today, however, these criteria seem overshadowed by materialistic demands. Instead of the heart or character, emphasis is placed on physical appearance, job status, wealth, cars, and houses.

The once-admired “simple prince” with modest means such as a scooter no longer appeals to many. The preference overwhelmingly favors those who own cars and have substantial financial status, even if such candidates are few. On one side, families want brides from wealthy homes to secure a hefty dowry, while on the other, they seek sons-in-law with good income so their daughters don’t have to work.

Shrinking Families and Changing Priorities

Modern preferences favor smaller families to reduce household work, but this trend has ironically led to families becoming overly small and isolated. Whereas earlier, the pride was in a daughter knowing household chores well, today, families boast about their daughters never having to do any domestic work. The focus is not on building a meaningful relationship but on finding the “better deal”, as if choosing a car or gadget.

This relentless search for perfection has delayed marriages and led many into middle age unmarried. The harsh reality is that youthful charm and glow fade over time, no matter how much one visits beauty parlors or uses cosmetics. The marriage market has become a spectacle, akin to waiting for a newer car model to launch.

The Job and Status Syndrome

A troubling trend spreading like an infection is the insistence that working boys should marry working girls. The belief is that if the girl earns, she may not respect her husband or his family. This skepticism extends to simple daily matters: should meals be ordered from outside or cooked at home? These issues have become major sources of tension in many households.

Authority and tolerance in relationships have diminished significantly. Without patience and mutual respect, the consequences are visible in rising cases of divorces and even suicides. The family functions through humility and understanding, not pride and stubbornness.

What Really Matters in Life

At its core, life needs very little  -  just two meals a day and a small home are enough to live peacefully. Above all, what matters most is harmony, love, and cooperation within the family. Yet today, the obsession with big houses and luxury cars prevails, often forcing one partner to live like a servant rather than an equal.

Modern homes are filled with conveniences  -  washing machines, mixers, water motors, televisions, and mobile phones. Despite these, dissatisfaction and unrest persist. Earlier, family and household tasks served as both entertainment and a way to keep minds occupied, leaving little room for trivial worries.

The Challenge of Today’s Relationships

Divorce and despair are increasing as people spend hours on mobile phones, watching serials, or frequenting beauty salons, neglecting their real relationships. When someone claims they have “no time for household chores”, it sounds laughable, considering the leisure activities many indulge in daily.

To younger generations, a simple piece of advice: entering a new family (in-laws) is similar to starting college. Endure some teasing or challenges because just as juniors become seniors in college, daughters-in-law will become mothers-in-law someday. Patience and respect for elders will come back to you multiplied.

A Call for Reflection and Change

It is crucial to marry at the right time, cultivate tolerance, and respect every member of the family, young or old. Life is full of ups and downs  -  never take rash decisions like ending your life. Consult elders, think carefully, and place faith in both human wisdom and a higher power.

We must all calmly reflect on how far we have come and the changes around us. The truth presented here may be bitter but deserves serious consideration.

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C. P. Kumar
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