The Changing Landscape of Marriage for People Aged 30-35

 

In recent years, there has been a notable shift in the age at which individuals get married, with many people in their 30s still not finding their life partners. The reasons for this delay are varied, and the evolving expectations around marriage, career, and financial stability play a significant role.

The Changing Expectations Around Marriage

A common narrative that has emerged around this issue is the growing tendency to place excessive importance on career stability and financial success when considering marriage. One such example can be seen in a story shared by a father about the challenges his daughter faced while trying to find a suitable match.

The father was presented with a potential match for his 24-year-old daughter. The boy, aged 25, was well-educated, employed in a city job, had good looks, and came from a wealthy family. Despite these attributes, the father raised concerns about the boy's salary - just ₹30,000 per month. The intermediary tried to assure him that the boy came from a good family, but the father wasn’t convinced. To him, financial stability was a critical aspect for a happy and secure future for his daughter. His response was, "What can ₹30,000 do in the city? And what do I care about his family’s wealth?"

The Pursuit of Financial Stability and Perfect Match

The father’s expectations led the intermediary to present other options, each with their own strengths and weaknesses. Another boy, earning ₹50,000 per month, was presented. But his age - 28 - seemed to be a dealbreaker for the father. He questioned how such a salary could support a family, let alone provide a comfortable life for his daughter.

Finally, the intermediary presented a third option - a 32-year-old man who earned ₹1 lakh per month. While this seemed promising, the father was still dissatisfied. His focus on the physical appearance of the boy overshadowed the financial stability he had been so adamant about earlier. "I don’t need just a high-paying job. I want a good-looking boy for my daughter", he insisted.

The Consequences of Unrealistic Expectations

As the years passed, the father continued to reject potential matches, each one seemingly falling short in some way. His daughter, now nearing 30, was still unmarried, and the father found himself at a crossroads. He realized that the pursuit of the "perfect match" had led to missed opportunities and that he had allowed time to slip away.

"Now, I am left with no choice but to consider boys aged 30 to 35", the father sighed. He observed how, despite having good intentions, the constant expectations for the perfect partner had led to delay and confusion. In retrospect, he acknowledged that he had often placed money and appearance above other important qualities like compatibility, shared values, and emotional connection.

The Role of Parents in Marriage Decisions

The story highlights a broader issue many families face today. Parents often hold strong opinions about what makes a suitable partner, and their expectations can sometimes hinder their children's chances of finding a compatible match. The emphasis on material wealth, physical appearance, and social status has led to a culture where marriage becomes a financial transaction rather than a union of two people with shared values.

At the same time, it is important to consider the role of experience in parental decisions. While children might be more educated or earn more than their parents, it is essential to respect their parents’ experiences and the fact that they want what’s best for their children. Parents do not seek bad matches; their concerns are rooted in years of experience and a desire for stability, security, and happiness for their children.

Changing Attitudes Towards Marriage: The Need for Balance

As societal attitudes evolve, it is crucial for both young individuals and their families to recognize that marriage is not just about financial success or meeting unrealistic expectations. Marriage is about mutual understanding, emotional connection, and shared values. While financial stability is important, it is not the only factor that determines the success of a marriage.

Furthermore, it is essential to remember that jobs, money, and appearances are all temporary. "Youth" and "time" are fleeting, and no amount of wealth or status can bring back lost years. The goal should not be to find a partner who checks off every box on a list of superficial traits, but rather one who will be a supportive, loving companion throughout life.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the importance of finding a partner at the right age should not be overshadowed by materialistic and unrealistic expectations. It is crucial for both individuals and their parents to focus on the deeper aspects of compatibility and shared values. Marriage is not about perfection but about building a life together with love, respect, and understanding. Time and age should not be barriers to making the right decisions, and it is important to balance practicality with emotional connection in the quest for a happy and fulfilling life.

C. P. Kumar
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