The Unspoken Struggles of Men After Marriage: What Women Should Know

 

Marriage brings about a myriad of changes in life, not just in the relationship dynamics but also in the emotional and mental states of individuals. While much is discussed about the emotions and struggles of women after marriage, men too go through unique mental states and challenges that often go unnoticed. This article sheds light on some of these struggles, which women may not always understand, but should certainly know about.

1. The Pain of Letting Go of Parents

For men, the bond with their parents, especially mothers, is profound. However, after marriage, when a wife pressures her husband to distance himself from his parents, the emotional toll on him is immense. The love and care his parents provided since his childhood are not easy to release, and the heartbreak that follows is something that many women might not fully grasp. Understanding the conflict men feel between their love for their wife and their loyalty to their parents is essential for a balanced marital relationship.

2. The Sandwich Between Wife and Mother

There are instances when a man comes home from work, only to find his mother and wife arguing or accusing each other. In such moments, the man often feels like a "sandwich" between the two most important women in his life. The mental stress and emotional turmoil he experiences in these situations are rarely acknowledged by either party. Both women, in their own ways, may unintentionally add to his emotional burden, without realizing the extent of his discomfort.

3. The Unseen Pain of a Son

A son who marries may face emotional pain from his mother, who feels insecure at the thought of her son leaving her to build his own family. This feeling of loss often leads to misunderstandings and miscommunications. The pain the son feels when he sees his mother struggling to let go is not something most mothers understand. This situation calls for empathy from both the wife and the mother, as they navigate the shifting dynamics in the son’s life.

4. The Financial Strain of Being the Provider

Men who truly love their wives and wish to provide for them may face a challenging situation when their wives do not understand the limitations of their income. When a wife continues to demand more than what is financially feasible, it adds immense stress to the husband. The mental state of a man who feels trapped between his desire to please his wife and the financial reality of his earnings is something that is often overlooked.

5. The Struggles of Being Manipulated in the Name of Love

Some men, particularly those who are genuinely good-hearted, fall prey to women who use love as a tool to manipulate them. They are aware that they are being used, yet they continue to act in ways that benefit the woman, all in the name of love. The internal conflict and emotional pain that these men experience are rarely understood by the women who are benefiting from this manipulation. It is crucial to recognize that sometimes, even the best-intentioned individuals can fall victim to emotional manipulation.

6. The Deception of "Bad Boys"

On the other hand, some men use love as a tool to manipulate women, weaving an intricate web of lies and deceit to trap them emotionally. The manipulative actions of these "bad boys" are often hard to detect, and many women fail to realize the extent of their deception. Understanding the difference between true love and manipulation is key to avoiding such emotional pitfalls.

7. The Pain of Infidelity

When a man, despite having a loving wife, chooses to have an affair, he is often driven by emotional neglect or dissatisfaction in the marriage. However, this choice is rarely understood by the wife, who may only feel hurt and betrayed. The internal struggle of the man, torn between the guilt of his actions and his need for emotional fulfillment, is something that is seldom acknowledged by the wife. Understanding the complex emotions involved can help in preventing or addressing such situations.

8. The Struggles of Shy Men

Shy or introverted men, especially in social settings like the office or college, often face teasing and ridicule from women in the group. These comments, often made in jest, can have a lasting impact on their mental health. The emotional pain caused by these remarks is often dismissed, as women fail to see the lasting effects of their words on a man who is already sensitive to social interactions.

9. The Burden of Failing to Meet Expectations as a Father

When a man becomes a father, he often finds himself in a difficult position, especially when he is unable to meet the growing demands of his daughter. Fathers often feel guilty and distressed when they cannot provide everything their daughter asks for, yet their pain is not recognized by the child. The emotional turmoil of not being able to fulfill their child’s wishes can weigh heavily on a father’s heart.

10. The Pain of Giving Away a Daughter

When a father gives away his daughter in marriage, it is often a moment filled with immense emotional pain. The father’s heart aches as he watches his daughter leave, not fully understanding the depth of his feelings. This moment of separation is a bittersweet experience, and the daughter may not fully comprehend the emotional toll it takes on her father.

11. The Struggles of a Brother Who Wants to Protect His Sister

A good brother, who genuinely wants to protect his sister, often faces emotional distress when his advice or concerns are dismissed by her. When a brother tries to guide his sister and she reacts negatively, his hurt is not acknowledged. Understanding the protective and caring nature of a brother can foster a more supportive sibling relationship.

12. The Pain of a Brother on Raksha Bandhan

On special occasions like Raksha Bandhan, a brother eagerly anticipates the opportunity to bond with his sister. However, when his wife interferes in this relationship, it causes emotional pain. The brother’s inner turmoil, caught between the love for his sister and the demands of his wife, is often ignored by both parties. Recognizing this emotional complexity can help improve the dynamics within the family.

Conclusion

Men, like women, go through a range of emotional experiences after marriage that are often misunderstood or overlooked. From the pain of letting go of parents to the emotional complexities of sibling relationships, men face many struggles that deserve recognition. By understanding these unspoken challenges, women can foster stronger, more empathetic relationships with the men in their lives, ultimately leading to healthier, more fulfilling marriages and family dynamics.

C. P. Kumar
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