The Silent Struggles of Boys: An Unheard Journey

 

लड़के शोर नहीं करते… बस खामोशी में अपनी ज़िंदगी फिर से खड़ी कर देते हैं।
दुनिया कहती है ‘मर्द बन’… पर कोई ये नहीं पूछता ‘थक तो नहीं गया?’

These powerful lines reflect a harsh truth about the lives of boys that often goes unnoticed. Society demands a lot from them, yet rarely acknowledges the weight of their responsibilities and the silent battles they face every day. While the world expects boys to be strong, capable, and uncomplaining, their struggles remain largely unseen.

The Weight of Expectations

Boys are often told to "be a man", a phrase that brings with it a barrage of expectations. They are expected to earn, to take charge, to smile through it all, and to never show vulnerability. The pressure is immense, yet society rarely stops to ask if they are okay, or if the burdens they carry are too heavy to bear.

In a world that constantly demands more from boys, they are tasked with being everything for everyone without being given the space to express their own needs, struggles, or fatigue. This “tough it out” mentality creates a culture where emotions are suppressed, and the true cost of living up to these expectations often remains hidden.

The Silent Battles

What people don't often see is the quiet strength boys summon in order to cope with their challenges. The battles they fight aren’t always physical or loud; they are emotional, mental, and often fought alone. Behind every smile, there might be a hidden struggle, a fight that no one notices because boys are conditioned to keep it to themselves.

They carry the weight of responsibilities - sometimes overwhelming - yet are expected to carry them without faltering. Whether it's fulfilling familial duties, dealing with societal pressures, or grappling with personal aspirations, boys are often left to navigate these complexities on their own, with little room for error or self-expression.

The Strain of Constant Strength

The expectation that boys must always be strong is not only unrealistic but also harmful. When society tells them to be "mard" (a man), it fails to recognize the need for emotional resilience and the right to express weakness. Boys are often forced to suppress their feelings of exhaustion, frustration, and despair because showing any sign of vulnerability is seen as a weakness.

But strength isn’t just about bearing burdens quietly. Real strength lies in the ability to confront one’s struggles, seek help when needed, and acknowledge that everyone, regardless of gender, has limits.

Resilience Born from Pressure

While the constant pressure of life might seem daunting, it is also true that the challenges boys face shape their resilience. Every struggle, every challenge, no matter how difficult, contributes to their strength. Just as the weight of the world can break someone, it can also build a person who becomes unyielding and capable of withstanding future adversities.

Yet, this strength should not be expected to come at the cost of emotional and mental well-being. It’s essential to foster an environment where boys can openly express their struggles, seek support, and not feel like they have to carry the world on their own shoulders.

Conclusion: A Call for Understanding

The lives of boys may seem straightforward to the outside world, but in reality, they are filled with silent struggles and unspoken battles. While they may seem strong, the expectations placed on them can be overwhelming. It is crucial for society to not only celebrate their achievements but also acknowledge the unseen toll that such expectations take. Only by doing so can we create a world where boys can truly thrive, free from the burden of having to be perfect, strong, and uncomplaining at all times.

In the end, the question remains: "Thak to nahi gaya?" — Have you ever stopped to ask a boy if he's tired, too? It’s time we did.

C. P. Kumar
Energy Healer & Blogger

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