Understanding Messenger Etiquette: Rules and Regulations for Men and Women

 

In today's world, social media platforms have become a common space for communication and interaction. Among them, Messenger, particularly Facebook Messenger, plays a pivotal role in how we connect with friends, colleagues, and acquaintances. However, it's important to remember that messaging, like any form of communication, comes with a set of etiquettes. This article focuses on the rules and expectations when using Messenger, particularly for men and women, and how to navigate this virtual space in a respectful and considerate manner.

For Men: Proper Behavior on Messenger

1. Friend List Does Not Equal Friendship

It is essential to understand that just because you are on a woman's friend list, it does not automatically mean you are friends. Sending casual messages in the same tone you would with close friends might not be appropriate. Many people, including women, prefer keeping their Messenger space more personal, and treating it like a casual chat with friends could lead to discomfort.

2. Don’t Bombard with Hi's and Hellos

Repeatedly sending "Hi" or "Hello" without any substantial conversation can quickly become annoying. This type of messaging doesn't foster meaningful connections. Instead, it often irritates the recipient, making them less likely to engage in a genuine conversation.

3. Respect the Response (or Lack of It)

If you’ve sent a couple of messages and received no reply, it's a clear indication to stop. Sending multiple messages without a response makes you appear desperate or inconsiderate. One-sided conversations can make you seem unattractive and push people away.

4. Avoid Asking for Phone Numbers Too Soon

Asking for someone's phone number immediately after starting a conversation on Messenger can come across as intrusive. It’s better to build rapport and establish trust before taking that step.

5. Don’t Overwhelm with Good Mornings and Good Nights

Sending "Good Morning" and "Good Night" messages every day, especially when the person hasn't shown interest, can feel excessive and unnecessary. Such messages should be exchanged organically, not as a routine obligation.

6. Be Realistic About Online Relationships

Messenger is not a platform to search for true love, especially if you're just passing time. Be mindful that most people are not looking for serious relationships through Messenger. It's important to be clear about your intentions and avoid miscommunication.

7. Avoid Sending Gifts in Online Friendships

If you're building a friendship online, it’s best to avoid sending gifts prematurely. Sending expensive gifts can sometimes lead to misunderstandings, and you might end up feeling disappointed or used later.

8. Be Cautious About Trust

Trusting someone you meet on Messenger blindly can lead to regrets. Screenshots of your messages can easily be shared or go viral, especially if they are seen as inappropriate. Always be cautious and think twice before revealing too much personal information.

9. Don’t Assume Replies in the Comment Section Lead to Inbox Conversations

Just because someone responds to your comment on a post, it doesn't mean they’ll engage in a private conversation with you. There’s a big difference between public engagement and private messaging.

10. Direct and Clear Communication

If you need to discuss something important with someone on Messenger, be straightforward and get to the point. Don’t drag out the conversation. If they seem disinterested or unresponsive, respect their space and move on.

For Women: Navigating Messenger with Respect

1. Don’t Post Screenshots of Mildly Disrespectful Messages

If someone hasn't crossed a line with rude or offensive language, it's best not to screenshot and publicly share their message. Posting such things can escalate minor issues unnecessarily and paint the sender in a negative light.

2. Avoid Taking Compliments Too Seriously

Messages like "You're the most beautiful woman in the world" or "Your hairstyle is unique" are common, but they are usually generic and sent to many women. While it’s fine to acknowledge them, don’t take them too seriously. Posting screenshots of these messages can make the situation feel unnecessarily dramatic.

3. Don’t Tolerate Excessive Good Mornings and Good Nights

Just like men, women may also find one-sided "Good Morning" or "Good Night" messages irritating, especially if they're sent daily without engaging conversation. If this happens frequently, it’s better to restrict the sender rather than tolerate it.

4. Avoid Searching for True Love Online

While Messenger can be a great place to make connections, it is not a reliable platform for searching for true love. People might not always be as genuine as they seem, and focusing on real-life relationships is far more fulfilling than relying on virtual ones.

General Rules for Everyone

1. Good Friends are Found in Comment Sections, Not Messenger

History shows that meaningful friendships are more likely to develop through public interactions such as commenting, not through private messaging. Engage in thoughtful conversations in comment sections before moving into private chats.

2. Be Mindful of Others’ Stress

The world is full of people dealing with stress and difficulties. Make sure you're not contributing to someone else's problems or frustrations by being inconsiderate in your messaging habits.

3. Maintain a Healthy Distance from Messenger

While Messenger can be a helpful tool for staying in touch, it’s also important to take breaks from it to maintain your peace of mind. Don’t let online conversations dominate your life—focus on real-life interactions and enjoy time away from the screen.

Conclusion

In summary, being respectful and mindful of others’ boundaries while using Messenger is key to building positive and healthy interactions. Whether you are sending a message to a friend or engaging in a new connection, always prioritize respect, clear communication, and genuine intentions. By following these etiquettes, you can avoid misunderstandings and ensure that your online conversations are both enjoyable and meaningful.

C. P. Kumar
Energy Healer & Blogger

Amazon Books by C. P. Kumar: https://amazon.com/author/cpkumar/
YouTube Channel of C. P. Kumar: https://www.youtube.com/@cpkumar2022
Spiritual and Social Books by C. P. Kumar: http://cpkumar.lovestoblog.com/bookmarks.html

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Image
The Changing Face of Modern Womanhood: A Critical Reflection Throughout the history of India, women have been celebrated in various forms. From revered figures in mythology and literature to the valiant queens and activists, women have played key roles in shaping society. In ancient times, women like Apala and Anusuya from the Vedic period, or Sita and Savitri from the mythological era, embodied virtues of strength, sacrifice, and devotion. In later periods, figures such as Rani Padmavati and Rani Durgavati stood as symbols of courage and resilience. Moving to modern times, we also recognize women like Sarojini Naidu and Mother Teresa for their contributions to social change. These examples across different eras have made one thing clear: women have always been expected to embody values such as compassion, forgiveness, and dignity. However, in recent times, an unsettling shift seems to be taking place, especially when looking at some of the actions of women in contemporary society. The...
Read more
Image
The Silent Sacrifices: Why We Hide Our Inconveniences to Preserve Relationships Introduction In our lives, relationships occupy a central place — whether personal, familial, social, official, or friendly. Yet, one quiet but profound reality threads through all of them: many times, we suppress our discomfort, inconvenience, or hurt, just to maintain the bond. We smile through annoyance, agree through inner resistance, and carry burdens that were never ours to hold, simply because we do not want to risk disrupting the delicate fabric of these connections. While this tendency often stems from noble intentions — like love, respect, or duty — over time, it can quietly corrode our well-being and even the very relationships we aim to protect. Why Do We Choose Silence Over Expression? Several factors shape this behavior. One major reason is the fear of conflict. We worry that raising an issue will lead to arguments, misunderstanding, or even an irreparable rift. Many of us are taught from a yo...
Read more
Image
Embrace the Summer with Responsibility: Tips for a Sustainable and Healthy Season As the summer season arrives, it brings with it warmth, sunshine, and the need for greater awareness in our daily lives. During this time, we must make a conscious effort to stay hydrated, protect the environment, and contribute to the greater good. Here are a few important tips to ensure we make the most of this season in a responsible and healthy way. 1. Stay Hydrated with Healthy Drinks In the scorching summer heat, hydration is key. Ensure that you drink plenty of liquids to keep your body cool and hydrated. Opt for refreshing drinks like sugarcane juice, lemonade, lassi, sattu drink, and fresh fruit juices. It is essential to avoid sugary carbonated drinks (soft drinks), as they are not as healthy and can lead to dehydration in the long run. 2. Beware of Spoiled Foods The summer heat accelerates the spoilage of food. It’s best to avoid street food and especially fast food, which is often loaded with ...
Read more