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Understanding Messenger Etiquette: Rules and Regulations for Men and Women

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  In today's world, social media platforms have become a common space for communication and interaction. Among them, Messenger, particularly Facebook Messenger, plays a pivotal role in how we connect with friends, colleagues, and acquaintances. However, it's important to remember that messaging, like any form of communication, comes with a set of etiquettes. This article focuses on the rules and expectations when using Messenger, particularly for men and women, and how to navigate this virtual space in a respectful and considerate manner. For Men: Proper Behavior on Messenger 1. Friend List Does Not Equal Friendship It is essential to understand that just because you are on a woman's friend list, it does not automatically mean you are friends. Sending casual messages in the same tone you would with close friends might not be appropriate. Many people, including women, prefer keeping their Messenger space more personal, and treating it like a casual chat with friends could le...

The True Value of Knowledge Beyond Degrees

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  In life, we often find ourselves caught up in the pursuit of academic success, burning the midnight oil for exams and memorizing countless answers to questions that seem vital at the time. However, once these exams are behind us, we may find ourselves wondering: What practical value do those late-night study sessions and memorized answers have in real life? The truth is, many of the things we learned for exams become irrelevant as time passes, and life doesn’t solely rely on degrees or certificates. The Real Battle Begins After the Degree It’s a reality that’s often overlooked – the real struggle begins after obtaining that degree. Degrees are often seen as the key to unlocking a successful career, but in reality, they only serve as a stepping stone. The true test of success comes after you step out into the world, where the demands are different, and the challenges are more complex. In this phase, it is not just your academic qualifications that matter but your ability to think ...

Embrace Life: Spend on Your Passions, Not Just on Necessities

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  In the hustle and bustle of life, we often focus solely on securing our future - working tirelessly to build a bank balance, ensuring our families are provided for, and striving for financial stability. While all of this is important, there is an equally vital aspect of life that often gets overlooked: living in the moment and indulging in the things that bring us joy. Don't Forget to Enjoy the Present It’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of wealth, thinking that accumulating more savings will secure our future and the futures of those we love. But as the saying goes, "You didn’t come here to secure seven generations; you came here to live". The truth is that while financial security is necessary, it’s equally important to take time out for yourself. You are living now, and these moments won’t come back. Spending on Yourself: A Worthwhile Investment A common thought in many cultures is to save as much as possible, often with the goal of leaving a large inheritance for t...

Curiosity vs. Assumptions: The Secret to Stronger Relationships

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  When we first meet someone, there’s an undeniable spark of curiosity. Every conversation feels like an opportunity to learn more about the other person. We ask questions to understand their world better - questions that are thoughtful, open-ended, and empathetic. But as time passes in a relationship, it’s easy to let that curiosity fade. Over time, we may find ourselves making assumptions rather than asking questions. This shift can unintentionally create distance between partners. The First Date vs. The Long-Term Relationship Remember the early days of your relationship? The excitement, the butterflies, the genuine desire to understand each other’s thoughts and feelings. On your first date, you weren’t focused on winning an argument or proving a point. Instead, you listened intently, eager to know more about your partner’s experiences, dreams, and preferences. You probably asked questions like: Tell me more about that. What was that like for you? Help me understand. These were q...

The Changing Dynamics of Family and Relationships

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  The world around us has undergone a tremendous transformation over the years. In the past, family ties were strong, with close-knit relationships and a deep sense of respect for elders. However, today, as time progresses, these bonds have weakened, and the essence of what used to be cherished family values is slowly fading away. A Glimpse of the Past In the olden days, when a husband wanted to inform his wife about the arrival of his sister-in-law, he would announce it with love and affection. The tinkling of the wife’s anklets and the clinking of her bangles would greet her husband eagerly. The wife would always respond with respect to her father-in-law, simply saying, “Yes, Babuji” or “Ji Babuji,” demonstrating her reverence for him. In those days, relationships were strong, and the sense of family was all-encompassing. It was a time when respect and understanding were not only expected from the younger members of the family but were also practiced by the elders. Parents' word ...

The Importance of Loving Your Parents: A Reflection on Time and Priorities

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  Life often presents us with challenges that can make us question our choices, priorities, and the things we hold dear. It’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of success, career goals, and personal achievements, but sometimes, in the process, we overlook what truly matters — the people who have been there for us from the very beginning. This is a reminder of the importance of loving and appreciating your parents while you still have the chance. The Pressure of Success In today’s fast-paced world, many of us focus intensely on our careers, studies, and personal goals. We are often driven by the desire to make our parents proud, to achieve milestones that will bring them happiness and pride. We might even convince ourselves that our success will have a significant impact on their well-being, as if landing that dream job or achieving a major accomplishment will somehow make everything better for them. While this ambition is commendable, it’s important to realize that success doesn...

The Significance of a Woman’s Body: Understanding the Role and Perception of Breasts

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  In many cultures, a woman’s body, especially her breasts, is often considered one of the most attractive features. Society has cultivated a perception of breasts as an alluring part of a woman's physical form, leading to an inherent desire to cover this part of the body when in public. The intention behind this practice is to protect a woman’s privacy and avoid drawing unwanted attention. However, this raises the question: why has society attached such a strong emphasis on concealing and often idealizing this body part? The Social Constructs Around Breasts Breasts have been viewed through a lens shaped by societal norms, often linked to notions of sexual maturity and attractiveness. From the moment a girl reaches puberty, her body undergoes changes that are frequently marked and noticed based on the development of her breasts. These physical changes are often used to signal a woman’s transition into adulthood or her stage in life, be it adolescence or middle age. Breasts have bee...

Choosing the Right Partner: A Message to Every Girl

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  In life, we often hear advice about choosing the right partner, but how often do we really stop to think about what truly matters in a relationship? The message shared here is simple yet profound: when choosing a partner, don’t prioritize wealth, but instead focus on qualities that will ensure a loving, respectful, and supportive relationship. The True Essence of a Life Partner When it comes to choosing a life partner, many may think that wealth is a key factor, but the truth is, material things come and go. What truly matters is a partner’s character and how they treat you. The ideal partner is someone who has a pure heart, someone who genuinely cares about you, understands you, and supports you through thick and thin. Understanding Over Wealth The message emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and understanding in a relationship. A partner who understands your needs, your emotions, and your unique qualities is far more valuable than someone who merely has financial r...

Understanding the Concept of "Sasural" and Its Implications

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  In many cultures, particularly in India, the term "sasural" is commonly used to refer to a woman's marital home or the house of her in-laws. However, the true meaning of "sasural" can sometimes be misunderstood. It is essential to understand the nuances behind this term and the emotional and cultural weight it carries in various family dynamics. The True Meaning of Sasural "Sasural" literally translates to the home of the father-in-law (sasur), and not the husband's home. The term emphasizes the idea that the house belongs to the husband's parents, and the woman, in this case, becomes a part of that family after marriage. The expectations and responsibilities in the sasural are shaped by the traditions and customs of the family that runs the household, and it can sometimes feel like a space that belongs to the parents-in-law, rather than the married couple. The Challenges of Living in the Sasural Living in one's sasural often involves nav...

The Silent Struggles of Boys: An Unheard Journey

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  लड़के शोर नहीं करते… बस खामोशी में अपनी ज़िंदगी फिर से खड़ी कर देते हैं। दुनिया कहती है ‘मर्द बन’… पर कोई ये नहीं पूछता ‘थक तो नहीं गया? ’ These powerful lines reflect a harsh truth about the lives of boys that often goes unnoticed. Society demands a lot from them, yet rarely acknowledges the weight of their responsibilities and the silent battles they face every day. While the world expects boys to be strong, capable, and uncomplaining, their struggles remain largely unseen. The Weight of Expectations Boys are often told to "be a man", a phrase that brings with it a barrage of expectations. They are expected to earn, to take charge, to smile through it all, and to never show vulnerability. The pressure is immense, yet society rarely stops to ask if they are okay, or if the burdens they carry are too heavy to bear. In a world that constantly demands more from boys, they are tasked with being everything for everyone without being given the space to express their own needs, s...

Embracing the Journey of Life: A Realistic Reflection on Growing Older

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  As we advance through life, we often find ourselves caught up in the race for success, beauty, status, and wealth. However, with each passing decade, it becomes increasingly clear that life has its own rhythm, and certain truths remain constant for all of us, regardless of our achievements or possessions. The following reflections provide a simple yet profound perspective on what it means to age gracefully and accept life as it comes. The 40s : Education Doesn't Define You By the time we reach the age of forty, the distinction between "highly educated" and "less educated" starts to blur. In a world where formal interviews and the showcasing of degrees are no longer the determining factors for success, the value of education transforms into something more practical and less reliant on external validation. At this stage, what matters most is your experience and how effectively you can contribute to the world around you, not just the credentials hanging on your w...

The Art of Listening: A Reflection on Knowledge and Humility

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  In today's world, everyone seems to possess wisdom. Whether it's politics, religion, relationships, science, or decisions related to personal lives, opinions are formed hastily and presented as ultimate truths. People often speak without fully understanding the context or gathering all the necessary information. The art of listening, it seems, has been lost, and speaking has become the priority. The Illusion of "Knowing" Each individual believes their experience, understanding, and perspective are the most accurate. Anyone who thinks differently is often labeled as ignorant or misguided. This belief, though widespread, reflects a misconception of what true knowledge entails. Knowledge isn't just an accumulation of facts and opinions; it is much deeper. True wisdom doesn't come from boasting about what we know, but from understanding the limitations of our knowledge. The Power of Silence Those who truly know often remain quiet. They recognize their own bounda...

The Dynamics of Household Leadership: A Reflection on Gendered Decision-Making

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  In many households, the role of the woman is often described as the emotional pillar, guiding decisions based on feelings and personal connections. However, when women take charge of household decisions, there are arguments that their emotional responses can sometimes lead to unfavorable outcomes. According to some perspectives, the household can face difficulties if the woman leads based on emotions rather than logic, with claims that these decisions may lead to faster breakdowns in the family structure. Emotional vs. Logical Decision-Making One of the main arguments in this debate is the difference between emotional and logical decision-making. It is said that when a woman, driven by emotions, leads a household, her decisions might not always be rational or well-thought-out. This emotional nature, while valuable in many contexts, can lead to impulsive or reactive decisions that are not always in the best interest of the family. On the other hand, it is argued that men are more ...

The Deep Bond of Parental Love: A Reflection on the Special Role of Daughters

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  In life, there are moments that reveal the profound depths of love and sacrifice, often in the simplest yet most powerful ways. One such moment is the silent promise made between a husband and wife on their wedding night — a condition that no matter what, the door of their home would remain closed for anyone else. It was a mutual decision, a symbol of their commitment to each other. But, as the passage of time unfolds, we realize that certain relationships, such as the bond between parents and their children, transcend even the most binding of promises. The Test of a Promise The night of the wedding marked the beginning of a life together, a life where decisions and conditions were made in unison. But what happens when emotions weigh in, and the love for one's parents clashes with the solemnity of a vow? This was put to the test when the husband's parents arrived unexpectedly to visit. As they knocked on the door, the husband hesitated. His heart was torn, but the memory of t...

The Complexities of Women's Expectations and Gender Dynamics in Society

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  Gender dynamics in society have been an area of deep reflection and discussion. While the roles and responsibilities of men and women are shaped by cultural, social, and familial expectations, they often come with inherent contradictions that reflect broader societal challenges. This post takes a closer look at some of the contradictions and complexities related to women’s roles, expectations, and how they interact with men in modern contexts. The aim is to foster a deeper understanding of these social issues without passing judgment. The Expectation of Men in Traditional Roles Historically, men have been seen as the providers and protectors within the family unit. They are expected to be there for their wives, children, and families, whether it’s as a father, brother, husband, or son. These roles, while vital to maintaining traditional family structures, come with a heavy weight of expectation. Society places a great deal of emphasis on the need for men to be financially stable ...